You deserve to be loved and be handled properly and be with someone who wants you to do the same.
Nothing hurts you more than a man who doesn't love you in love. However, it's not necessarily what you see as it really is. Instead, you make excuses. You unconsciously wait until he loves you. You assume that maybe you are mistaken and that maybe you are judging. You then say to your friends and family that they too are wrong and judgmental for not knowing him the way you do and not looking at the real him.
You're trapped simultaneously in two locations. You feel loved and comfortable in a good place. Then you feel unwanted, unhappy and depressed at a bad place. A scenario like this is not possible except to be frank with yourself. You need to see at some point what you have avoided all of this time because you are going to hit your cap. You should be treated well at the end of the day, and you deserve to be with someone who would like you to do the same.
Here are 15 signs that he is only using you and that your man doesn't love you.
1. He Keeps Asking You For Favors
When a man uses you, he speaks to you only if he wants something. It is a strong indication, if he always asks for favors, that he has no true intentions. He is asking you to do something for him that he should do better than himself. He wants you to leave your route for him even though he is not prepared to do the same for you. He asks you if you should do his homework, make him something to eat or cancel your appointment as a doctor knowing that you are trapped on your own orders. He asks you, not considering how long your day is, to take your jacket off your dry cleaner on your way home. Basically, instead of being your man, he wants you to be his mother.
2. He Only Calls You Late At Night
After 10pm, he is calling you because he has better things to do than to spend time with you. He is still too busy doing stuff he wants to spend little time visiting you, sitting with you and interacting with you. He calls you late in the night because, without making any effort, he wants to linger in your head. He's not contacting you or texting you all day long. And if he's contacting you on the weekend, at the end of the day, he will contact you, because there is no place for you. He asks you a few questions and he tells you a nice thing or two and then says he has to go. He's not as committed as you are, so he's not dreaming of a successful relationship.
3. He won't protect you
He doesn't take care of you the way you deserve when a man is using you. When anyone shows interest in you, he does not get jealous. He's not letting you go on the inside of the street. Around 2 a.m., when he knows you're drinking with your buddies, he doesn't pick you up from the pub. The day that the roads are unsafe because of the weather he will not drive you. He does not have your back, and he seems to be carefree anyway. When you need one, he doesn't give you a piece of advice. When you're greedy or dramatic, he doesn't call you. Because a man will always wants you to be the best version of yourself when he likes you.
4. He Procrastinates A Lot
If a guy likes you, he prepares for you for the long term. If your guy prevents you and your family from sharing his holiday period, then that is a sign that his heart is not all inside. couples spend time together in stable relationships, but they also have their own interests and hobbies. When he doesn't make quality time just for you and when his efforts don't get you to the next level, your guy certainly wastes your time. He doesn't have those intense love feelings for you and he knows that very deeply. Perhaps he cares about you, but not enough to build him with you for an enduring future. So he uses you to fill the gap of being single, while he stays with you, even though he admits that he does not see a future with you.
5. Like a cannon ball, he drops you
He ignores your emotions when a guy uses you. He cares for your heart and takes no account of how his acts impact you. He decides, he thinks he'll hurt you and he tells you things he knows are going to annoy you. Last minute, he cancels you. He tells you that he can do stuff that he doesn't want to do. He promises you stuff he can't do or do. He doesn't seem to know where this relationship goes. Instead, he does not make you feel safe and insecure. He does not make you feel safe. When a man loves you, on the other hand, he will make you a priority in his life and not an option. He never places you where you feel you don't matter.
6. He’s Hot & Cold
When a man uses you, his only way is to control your heart constantly. He's right one day, "the only one," your everlasting guy. He's all about you, he's insane and he can't get enough. And he's a straight-up jerk who needs room and time alone on the next day. He apologizes if he doesn't do you something he doesn't want you to, because he doesn't really mean it. If a guy uses you, he benefits from your feelings for him. He's going far beyond you're disregarding him or not because he knows you are going to give him a second opportunity and forgive him. He doesn't become a better person, because his motives aren't true, he still does the same thing.
7. He Acts Differently In Front Of His Friends
If a man doesn't take you seriously, he becomes another person in front of his peers. When he's romantic about you, when his friends are there, he's rude. He doesn't openly express his caring side because he doesn't want to convey his emotions loudly or indicate himself to you. Rather, he treats you just as he thinks that you are another person. He gives them the feeling that he doesn't care much for you and that you are more in him than he is in you. He pretends he doesn't know the specifics he memorized about you because he wants his buddies to prove he's smart. When you're with his friends, he doesn't give you the respect that you deserve. However, he's all for you when it's just the two of you.
8. He Lies To You
He's frank with you when a man really loves you. He tells you the truth always, particularly if it is difficult for you to hear. He says that you should not wear this dress, because you have a dress which looks best on you. His feelings for you and his feelings about your relationship are honest. He tells you why he's so angry and opens up what's happening in his life. Since a man does not drive you away when he loves you, he does not treat you poorly and does not deliberately harm your sentiments. When someone hits and how he replied, he tells you. He tells you when everything that happened isn't all right. And most important, he says he missed you and he loves you, not because he thinks that is what you want to hear but he means it when he says it.
9. He Avoids Deep Conversations
When a man is exploiting you, the way he moves your partnership to the next level makes you feel bad. He doesn't like it when you talk to his family when it's 5 years from now and what kind of father he will be. He doesn't like it. When you ask him where your relationship is and require him to place a mark on it, he calls you dramatic and needy. When you ask him about this female friend who keeps contacting him, or about his journey out of the area, he becomes defensive. He doesn't want you, particularly about his background, to know too much about him. In other words, he seeks to drive you away from a deeper level of connections with him. He just needs the relation to remain as minimal as possible.
10. You’re Shifting In Two Different Directions
If a man is next to you but does not devote himself to you, he uses you. He benefits from you because he doesn't dedicate himself to you and to your connection. If you want to be married, but he does not believe in marriage, he is with you for the wrong reasons. If he is in a relationship with you. If you are dating, if you want children but he's completely opposed to them, then you're not married. Because truth makes us the person we need to be as you would like to be for him when someone loves you. Maybe he's not ready yet, but every day he does little things to capture you. His goal is to build with you an existence. A man who loves you will never let you go, even if it means you let go.
11. He Disappoints You
If a man uses you, he's just let you down. Your hopes or standards never seem to be met. He says he's going to do things, but he's never going to. He says he will be there, yet he never shows up. He says he will be there. He says he cares about you, but in his acts it doesn't show. He is on you and much of the time he cancels plans. When you are together, you feel his emotionally far away from you. You still believe like your desires are not satisfied and it does not satisfy you absolutely. Perhaps he doesn't kiss or hug you much. Perhaps everything about sex is all he wants from you. He may not say he loves you, as he means it. Perhaps he does not tell you. Perhaps he does stuff for you, but not as you like. It doesn't seem to be enough, no matter what it does.
12. He’s Never Around When You Need Him
He doesn't turn up for you when a guy uses you. He doesn't accompany you to events, marriages or friends. It's not your well-being, he takes responsibility. He doesn't take time to see you when you are going through a hard time, so he does not want to encourage you. If a man uses you, when you need him most, you find yourself. He doesn't rush to rescue you in this case when something goes wrong with your car. He doesn't promise to support you when you need any money to borrow. He won't take your medication or be there to look after you when you're sick and can't get out of bed. And above all, he is not compassionate from where you are coming.
13. He Doesn’t Respect You
He doesn't look up to you when a guy uses you. He's not treating you as his equal, and he always treats you less than what you deserve. Your time, your needs or your body, he doesn't respect. He makes himself linked, his needs and what he wants. He is the one who controls the relationship: he calls the shots and makes decisions that influence you. If a man doesn't love you, he doesn't care about the people. Your friends and relatives are still not treated with dignity. He doesn't learn the things that you like. Your passions, professions and aspirations, he doesn't help them. You come second to him still. And only when he wants something or wants to change the subject, he gives you the respect you deserve.
14. You’re Unhappy Most Of The Time
It doesn't make you feel good when a man is using you. You are depressed and have low energy, as your mental well being impacts the way you handle it. You're tired of loving him because all he's doing is bringing you down. Instead of being a constructive source of negative energy. You don't expect to hear or see him again. Your heart doesn't miss a beat like it once was. He makes you angry, worried, and worried instead. What you think about when you're out and about is how he isn't the right guy. You're not absolutely content when you're with your family because your heart still suffers. You want it to stop secretly because in the middle you are beginning to get lost.
15. You’re Slowly Falling Out Of Love
You feel deep down when a man doesn't love you. He's always breaking your heart. You want to complain over the same things. He promises that he will improve, but everything will remain the same. You expect something that's never going to happen and hang on to false hope. You start to see the characteristics he doesn't like. You become short-tempered and nonsensical. They feel like they need time away from him and what they have, as they begin to wonder if they want him in their lives or not. Your love for him is a burden rather than a blessing. In it and the relationship you start to spend less. You do not have any calls, messages and WhatsApp messages. You start to be less concerned about him and every day your love is gone.
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